Emotional Based School Avoidance is a subject that has become a widespread situation for many families. Once referred to as ‘school refusal’ – experts realised that this was not the correct term. Most of these children want to be in school. They want to learn, but situations and barriers make it impossible for them to manage school.
With further support outside of school and mental health services limited amid a funding crisis, services are struggling to keep up with demand and do not have the required number of professionals. This has created long wait times, which can be overwhelming for families. Parents/carers are left in limbo, not knowing where to turn or find support for themselves during the process.
As a parent, it can be difficult to know what to do and how to respond when school attendance seems difficult. It stems from an extreme emotional response at the thought of going to school. Whether this is due to friendship issues, difficulty learning or academic pressure, it can be subtle to begin with until the day comes when you cannot get them through the gates.
So, what can you do? First, connect with your child and look at ways you can help them heal from their anxiety and fears of school. Find ways to lower levels of anxiety by encouraging good sleep habits, regular exercise, breathing exercises and regular meals. Help them work out what they feel would need to change to make them more comfortable in school. Work closely with the school on a plan for their return.
Raising a teen who is struggling can be extremely overwhelming. Time to Talk Teens and Tweens is a parent support group, kindly funded by the National Lottery, which runs every Thursday evening at Welling United FC during term-time.
This is an inclusive space where you can grab a tea/coffee and share your experience or just come along to meet other parents/carers. We cover a wide range of subjects talking ‘all things teen’
Want to learn more or join us? head to our website mentalhealthhq.co.uk
